Dating isn't a numbers game, it's an energy game! This is key to manifesting love and relationship.

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It took me years to realise I was coming at dating all wrong. As soon as I learnt it was an energy game my experience completely changed and I was able to manifest love and a relationship within a year!

I always used to think dating was a numbers game and listened to everyone who told me you've just got to go on the dates, get through the numbers, kiss some frogs. If you don't put yourself out there you'll never meet anyone.

Here's what I learnt.

Manifesting love and relationships is hard when dating is a numbers game...

• It's a process to get through, a job to be done.

• You're worried that if you don't go on all the dates you might miss out on meeting the "one".

• You ignore red flags and go on dates you know deep down aren't aligned to your energy.

• You doubt yourself and ignore your intuition.

• You don't understand why you never meet anyone lovely but other people do.

• You get upset when people you didn't have a connection with don't ask you on a second date.

• You feel as if you have endless bad dates.

• Your energy and self confidence is always low.

• You give people who treat you badly second and third chances because maybe on this date they'll be different.

• You're ghosted.

When dating is an energy game...

• You prioritise YOU, your time and energy.

• You only go on dates you genuinely feel intrigued about.

• You know that not every date will be perfect but that's ok!

• You treat dating as a learning process; what types of people and energy do you connect and what don't you?

• If they don't follow-up your thankful. You know they don't align to your highest good.

• You trust that what's meant for you won't pass you by.

• You enjoy meeting interesting people even if there's no romantic connection.

• You get treated with kindness, respect and honesty.

• You get second, third, forth dates..

How do you make dating an energy game so you can manifest love?

1. Become aware of your beliefs about love and relationships

Your thoughts create your reality so you need to spend time to find out what story you're telling about dating. Is it that it's hard, you'll never meet anyone, you're not good enough? If this is the energy you're going into dating with then that's what will be reflected back to you.

2. Change your mindset with affirmations

You're beliefs are not the truth, you can change them! Once you've become aware of your limiting beliefs, reframe them into positive affirmations. Dating is fun, you trust that you will meet the right person at the right time. You choose and prioritise yourself and are more than good enough. Every time a negative thought about dating creeps in, bat it away with your positive affirmation. Do this every day, build the muscle and change how you think, talk and feel about yourself and dating.

3. Prioritise YOU and detach from the outcome

Now you're working on your positive mindset it's time to do the energy work!

The most powerful thing you can do is raise your energetic vibration. Like attracts like, love attracts love. You need to go all in on YOU, loving, taking care of and prioritising yourself. As soon as I let go of the need to meet someone and felt perfectly content in my life just as it was.. guess what? I met my partner a week later.

Doing things every day that make you feel good, going out and living your life to the full, loving, prioritising and choosing you everyday will raise your energetic vibration.

You WILL meet someone when the time is right and they're aligned to your highest good. And in the meantime you're flowing with and loving life.

If you'd like support in transforming your experiences with life, love and dating book a free discovery call with me and we can talk about your next chapter full of love, abundance and life at it's best!

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